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Often our first is when we are young, in high school even. The second is supposed to be our hard love—the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain or manipulation. We think we are making different choices than our first, but in reality we are still making choices out of the need to learn lessons—but we hang on. Our second love can become a cycle, oftentimes one we keep repeating because we think that somehow the ending will be different than before.
Yet, each time we try, it somehow ends worse than before. There may be emotional, mental or even physical abuse or manipulation—most likely there will be high levels of drama. With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should.
And the third is the love we never see coming. The one that usually looks all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be. And then there may be those people who fall in love once and find it passionately lasts until their last breath. Those faded and worn pictures of our grandparents who seemed just as in love as they walked hand-in-hand at age 80 as they did in their wedding picture—the kind that leaves us wondering if we really know how to love at all.
But I kinda think that those who make it to their third love are really the lucky ones. They are the ones who are tired of having to try and whose broken hearts lay beating in front of them wondering if there is just something inherently wrong with how they love. What it really comes down to is if we are limited by how we love, or instead love without limits. We can all choose to stay with our first love, the one that looks good and will make everyone else happy.
The one we never see coming. The one that actually lasts. The one that shows us why it never worked out before. This story was written by Kate Rose. You can visit her website here. This article originally appeared here. Do you have a similar experience?
Submit your own story here. Be sure to subscribe to our free newsletter for our best stories, and YouTube for our best videos. Put your phone down, look at her and listen. Do you know someone who could benefit from this story? Because in this type of love, how others view us is more important than how we actually feel. Falling In Love the 2nd Time: The Hard Love The second is supposed to be our hard love—the one that teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved.
We are just simply accepted for who we are already—and it shakes to our core. This is the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer. Someone once told me they are the lucky ones, and perhaps they are.
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